Wednesday, November 26, 2014

I'm an ENFJ ... And you?

In early 2000, I was attending Mt. San Antonio College in Walnut, CA and one of the courses I took was: Life Management. In this class I learned about The Myers–Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) assessment. The MBTI is a tool that you can use when you want an accurate profile of your personality type. This tool was developed in the 1940s by Isabel Briggs Myers and the original research was done in the 1940s and '50s. 

According to Carl G. Jung's theory of psychological types [Jung, 1971], people can be characterized by their preference of general attitude:

* Extraverted (E) vs. Introverted (I),

their preference of one of the two functions of perception:

* Sensing (S) vs. Intuition (N),

their preference of one of the two functions of judging:

* Thinking (T) vs. Feeling (F)

and their judging-perceiving relationship:

* Judging (J) vs. Perceiving (P)

All possible combinations of preferences in the 4 divisions above yield 16 different personality types. Each personality type can be assigned a 4 letter acronym of corresponding combination of preferences:

And once I took the assessment test, I discovered that I'm an ENFJ Personality Type - also known as: The Teacher. ENFJ's account for about 2–5% of the world population. -See? And you think that I'm crazy... I'm unique! LOL! 

These are some of the ENFJs personality type characteristics: 

  • Making others feel valued and important.
  • Quickly seeing the positive and negative aspects of a human situation.
  • Expressing their feelings clearly.
  • Offering loyalty and commitment to partners, family and work mates.
  • Trying to always find the solution which works for everyone
  • Encouraging humor and self expression in others.
  • Finding ways to help others fulfill their needs.
  • Affirming positive community values.
  • Naturally falling into leadership roles within their community. 

ENFJs who have developed their Introverted Intuition can also enjoy these special gifts or as I like to call them: "our magic"

  • Understanding and empathizing with the feelings of others; realizing "where they are coming from".
  • A talent for creative expression which can turn ordinary things and situations into something magical.
  • An enhanced feeling of connection with and sensitivity toward the world around them.
  • The ability to see many facets of a problem and the many ways it might be resolved for the best.
  • The ability to make creative and valuable use of time spent alone.
  • Openness to the spiritual connections between all things.
  • ENFJs become increasingly creative, visionary and empathetic, and are therefore effective and kind managers of businesses, people, and various situations that life presents.

Knowing about my personality type has helped me greatly in understanding myself and how I react to many situations. It has also helped me to accept people for who they truly are. I don't try to change anyone! At home, my kids and I live a very harmonious life because we know each other's personality types as well; and, this has helped us understand our communication styles and to structure our family support system.  

My son Reece is an INFJ personality type. Also known as - The Counselor. My son is an "introverted" person. He doesn't like to deal with large crowds. I've heard him say a few times, "I hate people!" when he gets really frustrated. He's very quiet, passive and conservative with strong family values. Traditions are very important for him. 

Rio, Nancy and Sabrina
Now with my daughters Rio and Sabrina, I'm pleased to announce that both of them are also ENFJ Personality Types - This means that they're both just like their Momma! LMAO!!! We are extremely "extroverted" women. I'm the ENFJ who doesn't shut up because I'm constantly motivating others! My daughter is Rio is a walking Judge! She's the ENFJ who's constantly fighting for equality and justice for all! And my daughter Sabrina is the comedian. She's the ENFJ who sees entertainment and making people laugh as the best way to connect with them. I know, you're already feeling sorry for my son Reece. LOL! 

I think that by finding out and understanding our strengths and weaknesses; we could live a peaceful life at home, at our work place, at school; or anywhere for that matter!  I don't believe in going to see a therapist or a psychologist to try to figure out who we really are; when we have all the information accessible to us! 

If you want to find out more about your personality type by taking The Myers–Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) assessment test please click here: The Myers - Briggs Personality Test and have fun discovering your own MAGIC! <3 

Nancy Tiscareno - Super Bond Girl

Tuesday, November 18, 2014


A really good friend of mine called me last week. She was stranded at the side of the road due to a flat tire; and, she asked if I could change it for her. I said yes, of course. It was around 8 pm, when I was driving to meet with my friend. I remember that I was so tired from my workday; and, 
I was regretting telling my friend that I was going to help her.  But, I'd already given her my word, so I had no other choice. 

Once I got to the spot where she was stranded, she was so happy to see me. She hugged me and gave me a kiss; and, then she said that a man had offered to help her out. But, she told him that she already had someone on the way. 

As we were changing the tire, we had such a good time talking about different anecdotes from our past. We made fun of each other and laughed out loud as we were working that I'd totally forgotten that I was even tired. Once we were done, we said goodbye, she went home and so did I. 

As I was driving back home, I began to think about all the things that I've learned to do since I got divorced. Changing a flat tire is one of those things.  I'm a member of AAA roadside assistance; but, I didn't want to call them because I really wanted to show my friend that changing a flat tire is something really easy and she could do it too. 

Before I got divorced, I was the kind of woman who didn't even know what an odometer was; even though I was driving a car every single day. How embarrassing! I didn't know how to use a lawn-mower or a weedwacker. I didn't have any tools and I was completely clueless about how to fix things around the house! 

It wasn't until 2010 when I moved into a small house in Norco, CA that I began to challenge myself and learn new skills. First, I bought a really inexpensive set of tools from Walmart. There are not the best tools ever; but, they have saved my butt many times! My first project was when I purchased a washer and a dryer because I was the one who hooked them up. 

I'd initially hired a man to mow the lawn; but, soon I realized that with what I was paying him, I could buy my own lawn-mower and cut the grass myself. So, I bought a lawn-mower and a weedwacker without knowing how to use either one! LOL! I think I did OK, the first time I used the lawn-mower; but, by the second time I had broken so many sprinkler heads, it was embarrassing! hahahahaha!!! 

I then had to learn how to fix the sprinkler heads! Oh man! Plumbing is a bitch! Just saying! LOL! I went to my local Home Depot so many times, that the employees there would see me and ask, "Hi Nancy! How are the kids? What did you break this time? Did you take a picture?" hahahahaha!!!! 

One day, the lawn-mower was acting up; so, I read the manual and it said that it needed oil. I went and purchased the oil for the lawn-mower and poured it in the designated area. The problem was that I didn't measure the oil before pouring it and I almost emptied the whole bottle. When I started the lawn-mower again, all of this stupid black smoke came from the bottom of the lawn-mower and next thing I know, I was covered up with a thin layer of fine oil. I went inside the house and once I saw myself in the mirror, I began to laughed my ass off because I looked as if someone had spray painted me black! hahahahahaha!!!! 

And don't even get me started about fixing stuff in the bathroom! Once, I had to replace the sink drain pipe, oh I changed it alright! But, I was throwing up too! hahahahaha!!! Gosh, that's so disgusting!!!! 

What I keep learning is really not to depend on a man. I'm capable of doing basically everything that a dude can do. All I have to do is think positive; and, I know I will succeed! It's very simple! Of course I get many dudes who are skeptical when I tell them I'm going to do something! Like the guys at Pep Boys when I told them that I was going to change my own front break pads. They wanted to charge me $210 to do something I can do myself; and, the break pads only cost me $20. It was hard work; but, I did it!!! ;-) 

I've always been an extremely active woman; so, learning to do something that requires mind and body coordination gets me super excited!!!! I love snowboarding, wake-boarding, dirt bike-riding, skydiving! Whatever gives me an adrenaline rush and challenges me; that's exactly what I want to do! 

Nancy Tiscareno - Super Bond Girl

But, at the same time I can be passive and spend a whole weekend sometimes just writing. Whether it is material for this blog or legal paperwork or just simply tracking all my business expenses.  

Another thing that is very important for me is to make time for my hobbies. I enjoy sewing to a level that I can't even describe! I get so excited when I go to the store and buy material for one of my projects. Knowing that I'm walking out of the store with a piece of cloth that I'm going to be turning into a garment, or a gown, or curtains, or a costume is an adrenaline rush for me! 

The other day, I was at my hair salon and one of the hairstylist there was complaining about her second husband who was abusive towards her. She mentioned that she wanted to get a divorce and then she said, "I need a man who can support me". I was like, "What?!" I almost jumped out of the chair where I was sitting in, like in the fucking Exorcist! I told her, "You don't 'need' a man! You have a job! You provide a service to others. You make people feel good by doing their hair. You're beautiful! You have a brain, your body is complete, you're bilingual! What are you missing? Nothing!!! You don't 'need' a man!". At this point I had everyone's attention at the hair salon, "You 'need' someone to pay your bills, that's what you just said! You're capable to make your own money! And make as much money as you like!"

The problem with this lady is that she believes that she "needs" a man when in reality she doesn't! The sad thing is that she got married the first time to a man that she thought she "needed". Then she got a divorce; and, went and married a second man that she thought she "needed". I know she'll get divorce from the second husband. And I'm pretty sure that she'll find a third man that she thinks she "needs" and this cycle is going to continue! I've seen it happen so many times! 

That's why I strive to learn something new everyday. Not only for myself; but, at the same time I'm teaching my daughters and other women that women are capable to do anything that we set our minds to! There's no "need" for a man. I think that once you become an independent woman; then, you can decide if you "want" a man and not "need" a man. There's a difference! 

If more women became SUPERWOMEN our whole world would change! Because women would be raising their children to be independent and to learn the difference from "need" to "want". Many conformity cycles would be broken! And the stupid ideology that women are the weaker sex would finally be over! It would encourage men to actually behave like "true men"; but, it all start with us... 


Nancy Tiscareno - Super Bond Girl

Monday, November 3, 2014

BAIL BONDS 101 - Professor: "Super Bond Girl"

A couple of Fridays ago, I had my very first meeting (Discovery Conference) with attorney Christopher C. Larkin, a partner at Seyfarth Shaw Attorneys, the firm who's representing Danjaq, LLC., (the vagina people) who owns the trademarks associated with James Bond films.  Remember them? They're the ones who are opposing my trademark application for my brand, SUPER BOND GIRL. For this conference, I requested to have a US Patent and Trademark Board interlocutory attorney to participate during our meeting  because I knew that Mr. Larkin and I were NEVER going to agree to anything! And, I was pretty sure that Mr. Larkin was going to try to manipulate me.  

At the beginning of the meeting and right after we introduced ourselves; the Board interlocutory attorney asked us, "Have the parties reach a settlement?" I immediately replied, "No"; but, Mr. Larkin replied "Yes" - I was like, "What the fuck?!" 

Danjaq: Barbara Broccoli and Michael G. Wilson

Mr. Larkin began saying that he had contacted me back in April of 2014 via email and then again in June via telephone. And that he in fact, on the day of our meeting, had been "authorized" by Danjaq, LLC., to tell me that I could summit a new application to trademark "Super 'Bail' Girl" because "Bail" is what I actually do. - Oh really? So, Danjaq follows me everywhere and that's how they know what I actually do. What the fuck?!!! - OK, once again, I'm going to have to make things clear: DANJAQ doesn't tell me HOW TO DO SHIT! Is this clear now? I never asked Danjaq for permission to do anything!!!! 

Christopher C. Larkin
So, I then told the Board interlocutory attorney that Mr. Larkin had sent me a letter via email back in April 2014, where he stated that Danjaq was requesting for me to withdraw my application for SUPER BOND GIRL. My response to that letter was NO! Then Mr. Larkin spoke to me in June 2014 telling me again that Danjaq didn't like my mark SUPER BOND GIRL and that they were asking for me to withdraw my application. I told Mr. Larkin again, tell Danjaq I say NO! In August, Mr. Larkin filed the Opposition to my trademark; and, in September I filed my response. I told the Board interlocutory attorney, "There's NO settlement!". The Board attorney chuckled right after I said that.

Obviously, I'm NOT an attorney and English is my second language. But, the one thing I can tell you is this... I know the definition of the word: SETTLEMENT!!! 

So, for those of you who don't know the definition of the word: SETTLEMENT, here it is... "A settlement is a formal arrangement made between the parties to a lawsuit in order to resolve it, especially out of court". I guess Mr. Larkin doesn't know that!

I'm really good at sharing my knowledge with others. So, I'm going to take this opportunity to welcome you to my class:  

BAIL BOND: is a bond provided by an insurance company or surety through a bail bondsman acting as agent for the company, to secure the release from jail of an accused defendant pending trial. Usually there is a charge of 10 percent of the amount of the bond (e.g. $100 for a $1,000 bond) and often the defendant must put up some collateral like a second deed of trust or mortgage on one's house. Upon acquittal, conviction, or other conclusion of the case, the bail bond is "exonerated" and returned to the insurance company. If the person who has been bailed out disappears and does not appear in court, the bond funds will be forfeit unless the defendant is found and returned. - Copyright © 1981-2005 by Gerald N. Hill and Kathleen T. Hill. All Right reserved.

Who do I work for? As the description above indicates, I'm a bail bondsman acting as an agent for: Allegheny Casualty International Fidelity Associated Bond also known as A.I.A. Surety. Notice that the word "BOND" is part of the name of the surety I work for.  

Who sets the BAIL amount? Judges set bail based initially on a "bail schedule," but they can raise or lower the amount, based on the circumstances of the case. Judges ordinarily set a bail amount at a suspect's first court appearance after an arrest, which may be either a bail hearing or an arraignment. I don't set the bail amount! 

Who handles the BOND?:  I DO! Who negotiates with the client or the client's family members the terms of the bail BOND?: I DO! Who goes to the jail or court and posts a bail BOND?: I DO! Who signs the actual BOND?: I DO! Who surrenders a defendant back into custody for not keeping the agreement of the bail BOND I'd posted?: I DO!!!!!!!!  But according to Danjaq, LLC., BOND is not what I do! 
... Alllll-righty then!  

So there you have it my dear students! I hope you enjoyed today's lesson! Lol! This was just a simple introduction course to what I actually do. The trial between Danjaq, LLC., and myself on behalf of my mark, SUPER BOND GIRL is scheduled for early 2015. The US Patent and Trademark Appeal Board has issued a standard protective order. This  means, that I'm about to sign a confidentiality agreement with Danjaq; so, I won't be able to give or post information about my case.  But, one thing I can assure you is this... Once all is said and done: It's going to be a fucking bad ass story to tell!!! ;-)

Thank you very much for your support!!! xoxo! 

Nancy Tiscareno - Super Bond Girl